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My Boss is my Best Buddy

Every action has an equal and opposite reaction. If you are nice to your boss, your boss will be nice back to you. Mind you, I’m not advocating bootlicking or becoming a ‘yes-man’. You need to develop friendly relations with your boss. Most employee-boss relationships fall into four major categories.


Overt aggression: Employees,who adoptan aggressive attitude towards their bosses, have a problem with people in authority. They think their bosses are out to ‘get them’. They have a defensive attitude while interacting with the boss, who then starts to react in the way that the employee imagines. Your aggression will be reflected in the bosses’ behaviour and both of you will be actuating something that originated from the thinking of the employee. All overtures from the boss are likely to be met with resentment by this kind of an employee and the boss will reciprocate accordingly.

Dominant- Submissive: Employeeswho adopt this approach usually have a fear of authority and they tend to be docile and meek with the boss. They hasten to agree with whatever the boss says, will not raise their voices in dissent and think that pleasing the boss is the right way to be in their good books. In reaction, the boss is likely to adopt a dominant approach, which will further perpetuate the roles in which have cast themselves.

Both the overt aggression and dominant-submissive relationships are unhealthy and do not serve the purpose of endearing the employees to the bosses. It is self-defeating and will merely vitiate the office atmosphere.

Covert aggression:  There are employees who think that they are in a constant state of warfare with their bosses, but they do not want to do it openly. So they indulge in backbiting, non-cooperation , flout authority every chance they can get and carry on below-the-line hostilities in the office. In an office, it is difficult to keep anything hidden, the boss will soon realise the identity of the mischief-maker, and in turn will retaliate with her own brand of hostility.

Positive and equal: This is the ideal kind of relationship that everyone strives for. The employee looks up to the boss without seeing her as a tyrant, while the boss views the employee as a person with whom she has to work and get the best out of. There is no struggle for supremacy here. The relationship is of equals (well, almost) and both respect each other’s boundaries.

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